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Good bad relationships
its my second article on fameboxx
The key to a healthy relationship is communication...you can be happy, sad,
angry, joyful, you can own all these feelings but what you do with them can
make or break a relationship. What ever the feeling is you cannot expect
your significant other to read your mind... you can tell him/her using "I"
messages in a non threatening way as a means of communicating what is wrong
and very important here..what is RIGHT...so often we complain about what is
wrong but fail to celebrate what is right.....
In a relationship, two people should be constantly
growing....together...they should be sharing ideas, hopes dreams....the
hope is that you grow parallel and not apart....and everyone needs his or
her own space....if you are emotionally happy you will not be threatened by
your partner needing time away or from asking for time for yourself, and if
you are not emotionally healthy....then get help..in this day and age there
is no reason, no excuse to not be healthy or at least working towards
it.....there are 12 step programs, mental health counselors, clergy...many,
many resources.....your first priority is yourself, because if you cannot
love and respect yourself, you can't expect anyone else to do it as well....
Life can be quite a load sometimes....my sage advise and the single sole
thing that moved me from depression to passion for life and love was to
stop worrying.....if you have a higher power give it over....our higher
power does not say, hmm you worried about ten hours over this according to
my book i should grant your wish or worry.....or tough luck you forgot to
worry you're outta luck now....(this is where the thunder and lightening
would strike)...worrying accomplishes nothing...absolutely nothing....so
give it up..ask your higher power to take over the problem and he/her
will.....then you let go and let them do their work....
Another important thing about life and relationships
is...laughter....laughter is medicine....it comes in all shapes and
sizes...and the ability to laugh at your self is the key.....if you haven't
seen the movie Patch Adams yet...go see it......what a remarkable man and
to think he is and was put down for thinking it important to bring joy to
the world.....
Relationships are made of two people who both have 100% to give....not
50/50...but 100%..they take work...they need nurturing....they need
love....they are like flowers in the garden of life....ignore them, pass
them by, give up on them....they wither and die....they need what we all
have....they need love and respect and laughter...joy, and yes some pain
and sorrow...practice random acts of kindness...do something joyful each
day for yourself, your partner or both of you.....you wont regret it...i
promise.
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